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Question: I suffer from chronic pain
and then anxiety, sometimes severe, over the pain. I have been
in therapy and get massages, which helped for a while. Friends
suggest self-help books, but I am not good at reading. I do not
know if my current therapy is right for me. What do you suggest,
as I am very tired of the situation and feel I need something
more to help me?
Answer: A self-help book or a
therapy session is like taking a piano lesson, without practice
there is not much chance you will learn to play the piano.
Taking full responsibility for your healing is in order. You
will find moments of relief when turning over your power to
another to make you well; however, disappointment follows as the
healing is not maintained by you. Others can show you the way,
but you have to do the work.
Question: What do you mean by
work?
Answer: You have to become a
detective and take the time to go through the process to become
well. It is necessary to let the process take as long as it
takes, to stop comparing your healing process with anyone else’s,
and to let go of unreal expectations on your part.
Question: What do you mean by
detective?
Answer: You have to look for clues
in your life that caused you to have so much body pain. For
example, there are experiences from your past that you could not
accept or understand. Experiences need to be digested and
assimilated into emotional awareness, the same as food for the
physical body. The only way you currently know how to get rid of
these experiences it through the body. As a detective you might
look at the metaphors of your illness to begin to understand
what your body is saying to you. You can do this through
meditation, journal writing, talking to an aware person, or
reading books, such as Louise Hayes, You Can Heal Your Life.
Question: What else do I need to
do?
Answer: Look at your belief system
to see where it supports illness and stops you from healing. You
made decisions, both conscious and unconscious, about yourself
and life, especially about significant emotional events in your
life. It is necessary to root out beliefs you bought into that
are false and update them. For example, "Things just happen
in life. I am powerless to change my life. If only I could find
the right person and take the right drug, then I will be
well." These types of beliefs keep you childlike. To update
them it is necessary to say things to yourself; such as, "I
love and accept myself. I take responsibility for my life. I
have the power to change what I do not like, finding the causes
and removing them from my system. I accept love and support from
caring others to help me find my wholeness."
*Before you apply this information to your
life, please check with a professional health care provider to
help you evaluate the appropriateness to your situation.
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